Monday, April 25, 2011

Safeguard her!

Thanks to my friends for their true opinions on the previous blogs. And that was motivating. The morning news was not so good to hear. So decided to jot down something about it. So today the girl "INDU" goes missing from the train and the investigation begins. Still i don't know the issue clearly. But always the same issues for the girls. Are we safe?? We are capable enough to do works by ourselves. But the question is: "Are we safe enough to reach our destiny however it be??" Some people say all this happens because the girl is not capable enough to take care of themselves. But they ignore the basic fact that most of the girls turn quiescent in the circumstances,mostly unable to think or respond and thus they are the victims. Its might not be an interesting stuff for all to read. But being a girl, the news channels scare me brining up such issues and may be i have to express how i feel.

Seeing all the blogs on girls and a friend of mine questioned,"Trying to become a feminist??" And what that was a statement as well as a query! This is from wiki: "Feminism is a collection of movements aimed at defining, establishing and defending equal political, economic, and social rights and equal opportunities for women." Do you find me doing that? No. Every girl has those little problems in life, whether they occur at school, at home or with friends. And here i highlight a few issues from the state and maybe you get something to learn of a few things to think about. This is just an interrogative approach to the thoughts coming up in my mind. 
A little research on the topic and a little attempt to scrabble little facts,i read something interesting and hope this will make a difference!

May be the first thing which came to my mind was the Sister Abhaya issue. The Sister Abhaya Case is an investigation into the 1992 death of a Knanaya Roman Catholic nun who was found dead in a water well in St Pius X convent in Kottayam, India. She was 19 years old at the time of her death. First the case was reported as a suicide. ixteen years later, on 19 November 2008, two priests and a nun were arrested by the CBI. On 17 July 2009, charges of murder, destruction of evidence, and defamation were filed against the three.
How can we forget the harrowing experience of a 23-year-old woman who was allegedly raped after being pushed out of the Ernakulam-Shoranur passenger train recently.
Not all issues that were in news were due to the harassments of these kind.
From the various study reports it is clear that despite cent per cent literacy, achievements in the health sector and low infant mortality and fertility rates, domestic violence against women is on the rise in Kerala. The most common form of violence against women is physical, followed by psychological harassment, economic neglect and sexual abuse.The study brought out that about 11 per cent of mothers said they had been subjects of sexual abuse in their childhood and nearly 12 per cent of their daughters had also been victims of childhood sexual exploitation.Having been subjected to dowry demand before and after marriage and having no say in matters related to contraception and sex emerged as factors most significantly associated with lifetime experience of violence, the report said. 

And i loved this line taken from a website:

"Can't women's groups campaign to end "eve teasing"? It's a term I loathe because it trivialises the stronger and more appropriate "sexual harassment". The change will be difficult but not impossible. If we create an environment where domestic violence, female foeticide, sexual harassment and dowry are viewed by society as shameful, openly condemnable, something no mother would countenance with equanimity in her sons, society would begin to change"

May be these topics are of least concern to FEW. But there are girls who care. This is also to the men  who have a sister travelling in trains, a working mother,  a loving wife, the girlfriends who need care,and they might think about this and advice at the time needed. Each word and each line has something to convey. This carries a message for all. Respect the women. Forget "GIVE AND TAKE POLICY" coz most women i know and the wonderful ladies reading this are respectable and the selfless kinds. This is an obvious thing people know. But felt there was a need to remind you on this

A woman's whole life is a history of the affections.

And i conclude with something useful for the girls. Please do have it in your contacts:
Women Helpline: 1091

And this website to some extent helps us in understanding a little more on this: