Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Live & Let live!

All the blog posts focus on the girls and i happily continue bringing out this new post again “for the girls”. I know a few girls who regret being a girl. They believe the boys have all the fun and freedom. Still there are many who are having as much fun being a girl. The sole problem of being a girl is that, whatever you do, you are being watched. The intensions might be pure, but the observer takes it in a different angle. Be it in a school or college life, always a girl who is smart and active are likely to become a subject of discussion. On reading these statements, you might think am favouring all the girls. Definitely  no. Where there is a world of angels, the bitches coexist. They are the girls with zero social respect and the ones who flunked their basic moral science lesson. I would better not talk about them right now. We all know what all things come up while talking about a girl. The character, basic physique and almost everything comes up. It’s no crime admiring someone. There is no law forbidding commenting on any looks or character. So people tend to do  that  a lot. As a practice in Kerala, I have observed many hate girls wearing jeans. While in some parts of a country we find girls completely exposed else seen in tight clothing. The place where you live highly affects the way you carry yourself. The dressing and external appearance is the first thing a person notices about you. We always wonder why our parents force us to wear dresses of their choice. By the time we reach the end of our teenage, we tend to fill our wardrobe with the cloths of our choice. And most of them include the “type” of cloth in which we got maximum compliments. It’s a truth. Making friends is not a crime either. But there is a problem which affects the girls. Read the following excerpt and let me see how you interpret these two situations.
Beep in the phone.
Text message.
“Hai I would like to be your friend”
She:”Who is this”
Text message/
“I am your friend”
She:”Tell me who is this”
Text message
“My name is ********.I have seen you at the party. You look good. Can we be friends?”
She:”But i don’t even know you.”
Text message:
“It’s ok we can message and become friends.”
Beep in the phone.
Text message.
“Hai I would like to be your friend”
She puts the phone aside.
After sometime:
Text message.
“Hello are you there??”
She ignores as always.
Series of same text messages.
She puts her phone in silent and continues her work.
No more messages after some time.

In our society both category girls exist. Just think.! You might have tried to irritate your friends while taking a new sim. Do all the girls give you a same response?? The girl 1 just responded and the talk continues. May be it was a friend trying to fool her or maybe she was inviting a trouble for herself. But what can one do when the trouble is already invited?. And the girl 2 has something to teach you. Ignoring is the best thing one can do.
Similar situation is encountered in case of phone calls. I admit my mistake. When I used to give my numbers to every new friends i make. Even today I regret that phase and now I restrict giving my phone number. I hate the people  who pass on the phone number of girls without their permission.  It’s just not my case or my number. There are many facing the same situation. Finally the brothers or the boyfriends and in some extreme cases the family interferes in solving the issues arising due to mobile phones. Texting and calling friends is not a bad thing ever. Friendship is the best relation one has while in school and college days. But the undefined relation which one tries to build up via phone to an unseen person is the lamest thing to do. People blame the girls for being so. But the ones who pass on the numbers are equally wrong. I have changed my numbers and finally I feel happy coz I now have only the people I desire in my contacts. I have a phone from a not so reputed company. But the best thing I like about it is that I can block the numbers which i don’t want. The Nokia and Sony Ericson never provided me those. Well am not asking you to quit your phone to avoid the dumb calls, but try the ‘ignore’ option which you can do yourself. Never feel hesitated in seeking your parents help just because they might scold you for some reason. But basically they are the ones who can come up with the best solutions.
I spend time texting my friends and I never felt bad about it. Recently after coming back from a trip my mom tells me a tale. She was travelling via bus and the adjacent seat had 3 college guys. One among them was receiving text messages from some girl. She was perhaps indulged in casual talks. Enquiring  if he had lunch, if he studied or whatever. And the three guys had been reading it aloud,  making  unwanted  comments , taking turns and texting her. Mom doesn’t know who they were or where did they come from. But their actions reflected the respect they had for any girl. May be it was a casual fun for them. But the listener might not take it in a good sense. Just think about the girl, how she would feel if she came to know about this.
Another incident told by my friend while she was travelling in a long distance bus journey. There was a guy who kept on pestering a girl in an attempt to talk to her. Being a keen observer she was certain they were strangers. She sincerely hoped she would not respond. He began tapping her shoulders and kept on talking to her. Eventually the girl took a piece of paper, wrote her phone number and passed it to the guy. My friend was literally shocked. There are girls still who dare to shout scream or yell at anyone who come to them with any bad intension.
It’s not a problem with the girl’s character. It’s about lack of knowledge. They do not realise how bad a society and the people in it can be. The way a girl talks is the way to understand her character. Some are still a kid at heart. They go on blabbering just like a kid. They still need to learn  what  world is. You may find a variety of girls around you: the ones who talk only to their friends(often declared as ”miss attitude” by others),the ones who stay quiet in a classroom, confined to a small group of nerds or girls gossiping group or into the world of books(the miss. “Not So Famous”) even the ones 24x7 with the guys(might be the coquettes or the tomboy kinds) and even the sincere lovebirds who are in a serious relation(confined to her Mr.Right)..
When you have a 100  girls around you, you cannot judge by their looks how they are. Some men might read it and find themselves happy because the girls they know are not the wrong ones. But as matter of fact you see the wrong ones too in your daily life. Another reason for them to be happy are they are not the kinds a mentioned above. I have high respect for the men who respects all the girls equally. I don’t know much about men. Not even the girls. But the above excerpt is what I see in my daily life. These are events that occur and some which I have seen happening to the ones I know. When a girl needs others to say nice about her, all you need to do is maintain a nice habit. Having a little knowledge on the consequences can keep you away from a bad event. Why giving others a chance to point a finger at you??
One can never be bad. Only some characters turn bad and you can correct it on trying. There may be still few who blame you for the way you are. But there are many who love you for what you are. Do  good. If you are sure you are not wrong, there will be no one to question you. The girl who is reading this, trust the fact, you are the best thing that ever happened to your mom and dad. Live your life such that that fact doesn’t change ever.

Monday, April 25, 2011

Safeguard her!

Thanks to my friends for their true opinions on the previous blogs. And that was motivating. The morning news was not so good to hear. So decided to jot down something about it. So today the girl "INDU" goes missing from the train and the investigation begins. Still i don't know the issue clearly. But always the same issues for the girls. Are we safe?? We are capable enough to do works by ourselves. But the question is: "Are we safe enough to reach our destiny however it be??" Some people say all this happens because the girl is not capable enough to take care of themselves. But they ignore the basic fact that most of the girls turn quiescent in the circumstances,mostly unable to think or respond and thus they are the victims. Its might not be an interesting stuff for all to read. But being a girl, the news channels scare me brining up such issues and may be i have to express how i feel.

Seeing all the blogs on girls and a friend of mine questioned,"Trying to become a feminist??" And what that was a statement as well as a query! This is from wiki: "Feminism is a collection of movements aimed at defining, establishing and defending equal political, economic, and social rights and equal opportunities for women." Do you find me doing that? No. Every girl has those little problems in life, whether they occur at school, at home or with friends. And here i highlight a few issues from the state and maybe you get something to learn of a few things to think about. This is just an interrogative approach to the thoughts coming up in my mind. 
A little research on the topic and a little attempt to scrabble little facts,i read something interesting and hope this will make a difference!

May be the first thing which came to my mind was the Sister Abhaya issue. The Sister Abhaya Case is an investigation into the 1992 death of a Knanaya Roman Catholic nun who was found dead in a water well in St Pius X convent in Kottayam, India. She was 19 years old at the time of her death. First the case was reported as a suicide. ixteen years later, on 19 November 2008, two priests and a nun were arrested by the CBI. On 17 July 2009, charges of murder, destruction of evidence, and defamation were filed against the three.
How can we forget the harrowing experience of a 23-year-old woman who was allegedly raped after being pushed out of the Ernakulam-Shoranur passenger train recently.
Not all issues that were in news were due to the harassments of these kind.
From the various study reports it is clear that despite cent per cent literacy, achievements in the health sector and low infant mortality and fertility rates, domestic violence against women is on the rise in Kerala. The most common form of violence against women is physical, followed by psychological harassment, economic neglect and sexual abuse.The study brought out that about 11 per cent of mothers said they had been subjects of sexual abuse in their childhood and nearly 12 per cent of their daughters had also been victims of childhood sexual exploitation.Having been subjected to dowry demand before and after marriage and having no say in matters related to contraception and sex emerged as factors most significantly associated with lifetime experience of violence, the report said. 

And i loved this line taken from a website:

"Can't women's groups campaign to end "eve teasing"? It's a term I loathe because it trivialises the stronger and more appropriate "sexual harassment". The change will be difficult but not impossible. If we create an environment where domestic violence, female foeticide, sexual harassment and dowry are viewed by society as shameful, openly condemnable, something no mother would countenance with equanimity in her sons, society would begin to change"

May be these topics are of least concern to FEW. But there are girls who care. This is also to the men  who have a sister travelling in trains, a working mother,  a loving wife, the girlfriends who need care,and they might think about this and advice at the time needed. Each word and each line has something to convey. This carries a message for all. Respect the women. Forget "GIVE AND TAKE POLICY" coz most women i know and the wonderful ladies reading this are respectable and the selfless kinds. This is an obvious thing people know. But felt there was a need to remind you on this

A woman's whole life is a history of the affections.

And i conclude with something useful for the girls. Please do have it in your contacts:
Women Helpline: 1091

And this website to some extent helps us in understanding a little more on this:

Sunday, March 13, 2011

He is not worth your teenage!! :P

After reading my first blog post on girls, I am getting mixed reviews. While my mom who is a love story addict said its just some teenage romance stuff, my best friend questioned,"Why feminism in my words??" Best of all i heard today was remark by a friend of mine studying in an all girls college who said,"Its really a relief for my college students." Thus my intention behind the post was almost achieved. I have shared my post only with a few. May be its because i am not satisfied with my work yet.May be am confident about bringing out something better someday. So here comes the next too all the girls again for the sweet support. And i hope you like this one too.And now this is to tell you that at times sweet crushes might be the bitter love stories!
     The previous excerpt did mention the desires of a girl.Another friend of mine commented "Angels and bitches coexist. Go and chase the bitches but settle for a real life angel :)" was the favorite pick up line from the lot. So this is for you to know its not always the men who chase. The girls fall in love. May be with the right one or sometimes it takes long time to settle for "my kind of" guy!
A girl quickly punches a number into her phone and waits until she hears the other line pick up.
“I don’t know what to do, I really don’t. I love him so much and I don’t think he thinks of me that way. I mean, whenever I see him or think of him, I can’t help it, this smile comes across my face. Sometimes he sees me smiling and smiles back. That’s when my knees turn to jello and I get butterflies in my stomach. I know you think that he’s is so totally adorable and cute, but if you look past that and actually listen to what he has to say, you find a totally different person. He’s so caring and considerate and he makes me feel like I don’t deserve him. Well, actually, I don’t deserve him. He’s too perfect, I mean, look at all the girls that fall over for him. I could never be one of those. Their all so pretty and bubbly and not me. I couldn’t even start to compare myself to them. But whenever I think of him or see him, I can’t help it, I smile. Now I didn’t tell you this but he called me the other day about some work. I tell you now, I made a complete fool of myself. I’m so embarrassed. I stuttered the whole time, but he was so sweet and just kept talking and making me feel better. He’s so perfect, I don’t deserve him, so why do I keep wishing and praying that he will notice me, why?"

This is to those who have made this call and dedication with a hi5 to the ones who have heard this in person. For some it is a sure laugh stuff,for some it shall give a little to think about and for the rest..Agree or Disagree. But this is how most angels are :)

Well now now.. This was an excerpt from a feature i read recently. this describes a crush!! A crush is a word used to describe special feelings you have for another person, a classmate, or friend that you really like.Sometimes, feelings for a crush can be confusing because they're new to you and you aren't sure how to act. When you see your crush, a part of you might feel embarrassed and you might want to run away and hide. Another part of you might imagine your crush noticing you and sharing the same feelings.

But what if the story turns out to be different for a guy?It happens a lot — someone likes you, but you don't like the person back, at least not in that way. What's a guy to do? Ignoring her would be rude. Telling her to go away or saying "no way!" would be unkind and hurt her feelings. But not telling the truth about it doesn't work either because then she might think you like her, too. Guys before its too late settle the task.Here's an example: "You're a nice [or cool, pretty, awesome] girl, but I like you just as a friend, not a girlfriend. I hope you're OK with that."

Relax girls!! It's normal for you to want to be liked by boys as you get older, especially if your friends have official boyfriends and you don't. To answer the question, there's no way of knowing for sure that a boy doesn't like you right now. Someone might like you and just be too shy to say anything. Or maybe a boy that you consider a friend likes you, but you never thought of him that way.Chances are excellent that a boy will like you someday, and hopefully he will be brave enough to say so. Until then, enjoy your friends who are boys and think about the qualities you like in a boy. Do you like boys who are funny, smart, or athletic? Or maybe all three? :)

Saturday, March 12, 2011

To The Girls..

For a girl the toughest task is to find her Mr.Perfect. As we see in the movies some turn out to be the best ones. But some makes us say,"I wish they could live together for ever." Each movie we watch and each love story we read certainly leaves something memorable in our hearts.And for a girl its worse.In each movie at some scene she wishes,"I wish he would love me like this" or "It would be lovely if he quotes this for me" or "I wonder if he would be someone like this". For the committed ones there lies a desire to improve the one he loves. She want to show the world how good her man is, the unique way he can love her, the way she treats her in public has to be the best, the way he touches must be romantic, he should be only hers. And to a person who has an eye on her,she would love it more if "her guy" is ready to punch right on face for those irritating stares anyone would make. And for a single it is a never-ending ocean of hopes and aspirations. She always wait for the right man to come. Some fall in love repeatedly. Some are those real life bitches. But some are the ones searching for a real love. Always a faint hope to find the best at times turn out to be a wrong path. If they get lost in the track the society calls them "coquettes". Mostly a girl fails to understand this fact too. Friends blame each other. But think about yourself for a minute. Are you with Mr.Right?? Or is there any chance you will get someone better?? This post is dedicated to all the girls who are gonna read this. To make you realize not to make a mistake while you fall in love. And it is never bad to "stay single" little longer to let the best happen to you. Don't take a wrong choice. For many believe in kissing "a hundred frogs" expecting one to be her prince charming. But wrong. Someday he will definitely come to you and make you feel on "CLOUD 9"!

Another dedication to all the men. At times you play with our feelings. Some are the true lovers. Some are the mammas boy still. But you will need a girl someday,to provide her the worlds best love. To be uniquely hers. She would own you and you will be truly hers. Never break a girl's heart. Angels and bitches coexist. Go and chase the bitches but settle for a real life angel :)

To conclude my first blog post,I would love to post the inspiring love letter i came across in a website.

And hey girls..I hope he is all this to you!!

"I love you. I love every little thing about you your sexy smile, the sound of your voice, the magic in your eyes. I love your gentle touch and the warmth I feel at your side… I love dreaming about you. I love discovering you and letting go with you.. I love each and every once in a lifetime moments I share with you… Today.. Tomorrow.. Forever.. I love how you hold me. I love how you look at me when I say something stupid. I love how you make me happy. I love how you smile when I see you. I love how you laugh when I say something random,stupid, or funny and then go off telling your friends how funny I am. I love the face you make when I laugh. I love how you ask me if I’m alright when I can’t stop laughing. .I love how you make me feel. I love how you tell me I look cute. I love how you talk about music for hours. I love how you say sweet things to me. I love how you whisper in my ear when it’s really quiet. I love how you squeeze me so hard when I hug you. I love how you tickle me to the point where i cant breathe from laughing. I love how Ur not afraid to do or say anything. I love how you sing me to sleep. I love how you wake me up by kissing me. I love how I can talk to you for hours about anything, and you listen, and I listen. I love how we call each other as soon as we wake up. I love how you sound when I wake you up. I love how you want to spend every day with me. I love how you squeeze my hand. I love how you rub my back, and kiss my neck. I love how you lay next to me, and tell me that everything’s perfect. I love how everything is perfect. I love how you see the person I really am.. I love how you say we are perfect for each other. I love how you make me cry, but not because I’m upset or sad, or you hurt me, but because you made me the happiest person ever. I love how I wake up in the morning for you. I love how I anticipate seeing you. I love how you kiss me.I love how I get nervous when I see you, but feel more comfortable with you than I do with anyone else. I love how you deal with my picky eating habits. I love how you worry about me, and take care of me. I love how you stick up for me and tell people off who are mean to me. I love how you get jealous when i talk to other guys. I love how you push the hair out of my face. I love how you always ask who I’m texting. I love how you pay for me when we go places. I love how you pray over me when I am sick. I love how you insist everything will be alright, and make me feel at ease. I love how you keep me warm when I’m cold. I love how when I lay with you, you always have body heat. I love how you don't care about your insecurities and you don't try to hide it. I love how your hands sweat. I love how you are not afraid what people think of you. I love how you are willing to do anything in front of anyone. I love how you give me weird looks at awkward moments. I love how you tell me to smile, just so you can say how much you love it. I love how you stop everything for me. I love how I’m important to you. I love how you always make eye contact. I love how I make you happy. I love how you make me happy. I love how you make sure I stay in line. I love how I only want to be with you.I love how you get mad at me when I cuss. I love how I only think about you. I love how I stop everything because I get distracted and have to call you. I love how you make me always come back to you when you're a jerk. I love how you get jealous. I love how you are when you are with your family.I love how I can see myself with you forever. I love how we talk about being together forever. I love how you tell me how were gonna live our life, what are kids names are gonna be, where we're gonna live. I love how you think I have cute feet. I love how you tickle me. I love how you get mad when someone says something to upset me. I love everything little thing about you."

Saturday, April 10, 2010

The Big Sister...

"Hey you are the only child don't you get bored..?"Thats a question people ask me when the question of siblings comes up...Well now to whoever asks me that question..i have decided to publish my answer in this..seems strange..but what to do...fed up wid the same ques....
Cousins..well i would like to use the term sibbling for them in my case...i have got the sweetest and most adorable collection of brothers and sisters in this world i must say...when am upto sumthing nasty i have an lder brother to scold me...when i want to have a fight i have my little brothers and the only people in the world who sit with patiance to listen my little sisters..
So in the gang sumbody missing ryt..the elder sister..
Now you will wonder why i gave the title the Big sister when i dont have one..u know what..i felt like writing about chose this topic..
Never felt so special being the big sister until now..but things are changing as in entered the college..haha strange for you people but for me its sumthing cute and precious..
Well the Big sister story begins with Neha calling me up 1 day and sayin..."I went for shopping with mum n dad..bought a dress of 2***..but i dint like time wen u go out do get me a dress like the blue one have...bla bla.."well i felt great coz it was a dress i had selected for myself...till then mom was the boss...her comments did bring a new turning point to my life..I began chosing my clothes..For me n the best dressed person in the whole wide world..
Then it was when Neha girl started getting silly things coming up here...and i recieve a dozen phone class asking for just a 1st year engineering student..what all could i say..i just recollected all the tv commercials and grandmas advices..she could hav asked granny...but she chose me....dont u think thats because i am special??here i must confess i did tell her some stuffs which i havnt tried myself..nd just seen in d commercials..
Then her exam time.."shuld i learn this...."..."hey did u learn this much when u were in 12th.."..."what type of questions"....and much more...hours she could go on...and i always join the u hun...
The fact why i chose to write it now is my another sis..even she is taking my 7th grade she happens to be in orkut and has developed a fantacy for picture scraps...she send it to her profile by herself but each time she asks me.."do u like it...?"...if its a no..."ok then i dont want..."...isnt that cute..shes my sweetheart..i feel so special when she asks me which dress to wear before going out...she hold my hand and like to know a lot about me and my friends while we go for an evening walk..
To add to that she wants me to shape her nail...anther crazy thing she started after she started liking tall nails i used to she approaches me for all the silly suggestions...
When its about computer games...she likes to share the chair with me and watch me play or else we both do it together...BOYS out of the scene...i feel pity for my lil brother sometimes...
So i have nothing more to write...Wanted to experss that i am a good sister...